Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Who Wants to Marry Me ... Again?

Our family recently had the pleasure of going on a lovely beach vacation.  In fact, if you've read my recent post, "Stress on the Beach," you already know about my disastrous swimsuit mishap. 

But there is another story worth telling from this vacation, and this once revolves around my in-laws, with whom we were staying in a large, multi-bedroom rental house that afforded us the luxury of our own space while still allowing us to spend time together.

The house was really lovely, which was a relief after our disastrous trip down.  We had gotten stuck in traffic, and every time the car stopped, my 20-month-old daughter Clara would scream and cry from the backseat—so essentially, we'd move a few feet and she'd take a breath and pause, we'd think we were in the clear, then traffic would come to a standstill again and she'd resume her wailing.  I'm pretty sure I have some permanent hearing loss as a result of the screeching—it literally went on for hours.

At one point we stopped at a rest stop to get some more snacks and drinks for the kids (we'd thrown everything we had at them so far in an attempt to keep them distracted from the fact that we weren't going anywhere), and the children leaped out of the car and pranced around with huge grins on their faces.  My four-year-old son Evan shouted "We're here!  Where's the ocean?"  *sigh*

After begrudgingly piling the kids back into the van (with new snacks and beverages in hand), we resumed our stop-and-go pattern until we finally found an alternate route that was less jammed up, and let me tell you, it was absolutely exhilarating to be able to exceed five miles an hour.

Despite our delays, we finally arrived at the house. We were haggard and tired, but grateful to be there, and we were immediately distracted from our recent ordeal by whispered rumors that my sister-in-law's boyfriend had brought along a ring.  We already knew that he was planning on asking her to marry him, and it was now obvious that he planned on proposing during our stay at the beach!  The excitement was palpable, and we began placing our bets on when the proposal would take place.

As it happened, they were engaged by day three. There was much celebrating and admiring of the ring (it's an absolutely gorgeous blue diamond), and after lots of shouting, squealing and hugging, we grew wistful and began telling stories about our own engagements and laughing about our own wedding mishaps.

Evan, sensing the excitement in the air, donned a ring-pop and pranced about, proudly announcing that the ring meant that he, too, was engaged.  When we asked him who he was planning on marrying, he cuddled up to me and said sweetly, "I'm going to marry Mommy, because she's my best girl."

I didn't know whether to laugh or cry.  I think I did a little of both.

Evan continued to wear the ring-pop stub even after he had devoured the lollipop, and he showed it off to every passerby in town who would take notice, proudly announcing, "I'm getting married!"

It was a magical time for everyone, and I had the honor of doing the engagement photos (I'm a photographer in my "spare time"—it's something I don't talk about much on my blog, but it's a passion of mine).  Here's a photo I took of the gorgeous ring! 


There was much to be happy about in addition to the engagement, for my husband and I had just celebrated our eight year anniversary. And when my in-laws offered to put the kids to bed one night so that we could have a rare evening out to celebrate, we wasted no time in accepting the offer!

We chose a fancy restaurant with a view of the water and had the pleasure of enjoying a rare romantic dinner at sunset. The baked brie was pure heaven on a plate, my scallops were amazing, and the view of the sunset over the water was stunning. We held hands, drank wine, reminisced about our wedding and marveled at the fact that, in two years, we'll have been married for a decade.


We posed for some photos between dinner and dessert.  It was all very romantic; the combination of drinks, music and sunset definitely had us feeling all warm and fuzzy inside.  My thoughts drifted wistfully back to my wedding, and by the time our desserts had been eaten and our alcohol-laden coffees had arrived, I was feeling quite inspired to do something romantic and wedding-ish again with my sweetheart.


I shot my hubby a flirty look as he snapped my picture with my decadent coffee, and as he gazed at me lovingly across the table, I proposed my brilliant idea.




"So honey, what do you think about renewing our vows for our tenth anniversary?  Wouldn't that just be perfect?"




I was met with a blank stare from my husband.  "Why on earth would we want to do that?" he asked.  "What—didn't we mean them the first time?"  I just stared at him with my mouth hanging open.  Did I really have to explain this?

I said, "We could go somewhere and do it on the beach.  I could wear my wedding dress again."

He responded, "Oh, I get it. This is just to prove it still fits, isn't it?  It's some kind of female validation thing."  I was horrified.  That couldn't be it, could it?  I mean, sure—it would be awesome if my dress still fit, and I would love to have an opportunity to wear it again, to get photos taken, to carry a bouquet... but surely this wasn't all about me.

I started waxing poetic about how romantic it would be, and how much more meaningful the vows would be now that we had kids, and...

"So we'd get a vacation out of it, at least," he interrupted, "without the kids?" I said that yes, naturally if we renewed our vows we would take a second honeymoon, and that it would be without the kids.

He snorted. "Good luck convincing anyone to watch the rugrats for a whole week.  And what—I'd have to get all dressed up in a tux again and pay someone to do a ceremony and everything?  Can't we just take a vacation?"

I stared at him and began to realize that he had zero interest in renewing our vows.  Absolutely none.  I slumped in my chair and pouted. "So, you really don't like the idea of renewing vows?" I asked sorrowfully.

He smiled and said, "Heck, if you can find a guy who's willing to do it with you, I'm all for it."

(dramatic pause)

"And THAT," I said, "IS GOING ON MY BLOG."

He glared at me and I thought I detected some smoke emanating from his ears. "Well," he said ruefully, "apparently I have to watch everything I say around you any more."  I informed him that if he'd stop being an idiot, he'd stop getting quoted on my blog.

So, I guess now I should start the search for a stand-in for my husband for that renewal of vows.  But whoever submits his application is going to have to remember something—this handsome little guy has already claimed me, and he's got the ring to prove it!
I love my Mommy!
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62 comments:

  1. Oh Jenn! Isn't it funny how these moments that start off so tender can end up so differently. I am laughing but I have really been in almost the exact conversation with my husband. BTW, I LOVE the photo you took of the ring! It is stunning!
    Blessings,
    ~Erin

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  2. What a great post - isn't it funny how we can love our hubby's so darn much - but they can still be so clueless about things that are important to us! Thanks for sharing and giving us all some love, laughter, and eye-rolling!
    PS - I found your blog on the Wednesday Window linky at Frugality is Free!!

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  3. awww jenn!! your photos are gorgeous. i love the seashell one. you are beautiful. i love how you included the photos to really give us a visual...there you are, about to sip your coffee (which by the way looks amazing. coffee and alcohol are such a perfect combo.) feeling all lovey dovey and then within a minutes, the steaming cup is poured down his pants?!?? LOL jk jk, but i can so relate to this. there have been instances where steve will do the same to me. crush my romatic dreams and just be a "total dude"...
    there have been times steve and i will have a day together...i will suggest something out of the ordinary and he will say the same, "why would we do that?" to which usually ends the night with him trying hard for some nookie. i roll over to my side of the bed and mutter, "why would i want to do that?" you'd think they would learn ;)
    but then there are moments our husbands are amazing and we know we wouldn't want to live without them.
    i say you have yourself one amazing little man who has already claimed you for "wedding 2"
    super cute photo!!
    happy hump day!! <3
    maria

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  4. What a laugh! Now following you from They Don't Call Me Blanks Blog Hop. Kat :-) http://kat-makingthemostofit.blogspot.com/

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  5. You are so sweet. Thank you so much for stopping by and letting me know about this little corner of your life. I have an Evan, too and in matter fact he DID claim me a while back, too. Gotta love those boys! So excited to follow you!!!

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  6. Don't you just love little boys? I can't wait until my little guy can tell me he loves me!!
    Love the last photo!!
    Sarah @ made in usa challenge

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  7. I love it! Such a sweet/funny/lovely story! =) The Mr. would probably have the same reaction. I can imagine him just looking at me and saying, "Why?"

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  8. great post!!! your blog is fabu!

    found ya via WHiMsiCaL Wednesday hop – newest follower – come by and say hi and follow back if ya like!
    ♥cyn♥
    misadventures of a chunky goddess

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  9. Awwww loved this post! New follower from vB Wednesday Hop.

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  10. Oh Jenn, you're a great story teller! You had me at the edge of my seat. Your little boy is so sweet and earnest with his ring pop, great ending to the post.

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  11. Oh Jenn, sorry for that ending...just hit erase! I had thoughts of re-newing our vows this year (our 10th) but never did anything with it. As it turns out, what I thought was going to be an "ordinary" anniversary became perfect anyway. It became 3 days of spending time together, getting special things(!) and reminiscing - all spontaneous and absolutely perfect.
    And on the car trip there....movies. You've got to get a movie player!

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  12. I love this post Jenn!! I adore how your son was with you, that is just priceless!! And, well, husbands can sometimes act so much like husbands!! Once my husband and I were having a stupid argument, it was around one of our anniversaries and I think he said something like what do you want for our anniversary and I said a "recount", then we both lauged hystercailly, so that has become a standing joke for us!! Goofy, yes but it works, we have been married for 18 years. You are beautiful and I love the photo of your sister-in-laws beautiful engament ring!! Thanks for such a fun post!

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  13. Just stopped by on this post again, cause it makes me laugh...still!
    ~Erin

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  14. Is that. Real shell? It's gorgeous! Our 10 th anniversary is next year. I also asked my husband about renewing our vows! He said " isn't that something people do for maybe a 30th anniversary!" then he said he thinks it's more for the woman, but would do it if I really wanted to. I think well save it for our 20th.

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  15. I have no doubt in my mind that my husband would react EXACTLY the same way!
    Love the ring pic!
    Stopping by from members to remember!

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  16. New follower from Thankful Thursday! Hope you'll follow back! www.stacyssavings.com

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  17. I was planning on renewing our vows next year. You notice I said "I". I think my husband is only along for the ride if we do it. I don't think I'd try to get back in my wedding dress, though! I already bought another white one. ;) Let us know if you find a proxy! LOL

    And, aren't date nights like that great? How wonderful that it came complete with sunset on the beach!

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  18. What is it with our husbands and our blogs? It keeps us busy and we leave them alone, right? They should like it! :)
    Great post. Beautiful photo of the ring too. -NYOA

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  19. Oh Darling, I don't know wether to laugh or cry... but I do know that Evan would make a great stand-in! xoxo

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  20. I have to laugh because I've heard this before. My nephew announced he was marrying his mother because he didn't need ANOTHER mother. You know you have to watch it when your five year old is already stating that he's never leaving home. And my fiancee already said he probably wouldn't renew his vows after a few years. He said "if someone wrestles me for you in 10 years, only then will I pee on you again." So there you go. Our men have peed once and don't want to do it again. :)

    Friend from blog hop discovering your blog

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  21. I loved this whole story from start to finish! Beautiful photos too. It's amazing how quickly things can turn in a conversation!! Yes, husbands of bloggers must beware!!

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  22. Ok! Let me breathe first. First off, happy 8th anniversary to you. Second, Evan is quite the handsome gentleman to think of you so affectionately. Third, why did he spoil such a romantic evening by making those remarks? Come on, a 10 year vow renewal is a great way to recommit your marriage. What a way to spoil the most picturesque of all evenings! The engagement photo is lovely! I am just reeling here!

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  23. I WILL, PICK ME...I'm not a guy though...hmmmm, never mind. On another note - is that ring a diamond? It looks blue in the shell...gorgeous!

    wm

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  24. What a great story. Sooooo sweet.
    There's something about a little boys heart and innocence. :-)
    Visiting from VB.

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  25. I love how we can try to be romantic and our wonderful husbands just totally ruin the mood! He deserves to be quoted on the blog for this one for sure.

    That little guy of yours is absolutely gorgeous - that is a stunning picture!

    Visiting from voiceBoks Members to Remember!

    Christina

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  26. Proof once again that men DO NOT think like women!
    Visiting from voiceBoks
    Thanks, Becky Jane
    http://riseaboveyourlimits.blogspot.com/

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  27. LOL! I'm so sorry for the way your story ended, but I must say your son is the cutest little man ever! And I love the photo you took of the ring.

    Blessings,
    Rosann

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  28. Would it be bragging if I said that we have been talking about renewing our vows since just before the 10 year mark (and at the 15 year mark), and that IT WAS HIS IDEA??

    So far our financial situation has not allowed for it, but we both think it would be a great idea. Wish me luck for being able to do it for 20 years in 2014!

    Hilarious post, though. Marry Evan! Then you can keep him forever and ever.

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  29. I love the picture of the ring. And what your little boy said...SOOOOO cute! I would have definitely cried if that were me. :)

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  30. New follower from Finding New Friends Weekend Blog Hop!!! Please follow back!!!! =D

    http://corabeth27.blogspot.com/

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  31. Men! They have no clue-lol!

    I'm visiting from the Finding New Friends blog hop...

    Have a wonderful weekend!

    Carolee
    Come on home - mom blog
    Working at home advice

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  32. Sounds like my honey. haha.

    I'm a new follower from the FNF hop. Hope you can stop by http://mamasmusingsblog.blogspot.com

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  33. Cute! I say stick with the kid with the ring pop and forget the guy in the tux!

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  34. What a fun read - and the guys just don't get it! New follower from the MammaPress bloghop
    Janice

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  35. Men just don't get it. I try to explain things like this to my husband and I'm met with blank stares. Very normal, not to worry. And your little boy is so sweet.

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  36. My 17 month old use to scream in the car when he was a baby. Whenever there was a red light, I would stop way back from the car in front of me so I could pump the brakes and simulate that the car was still moving! Your little boy is so sweet to call you his "best girl." Congrats to your sister-in-law. Following from the weekend blog hop. Feel free to do the same www.mommyfive-o.blogspot.com

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  37. hi! new follower! great stuff!
    luv
    mare
    http://mare-itsjustmebeingme.blogspot.com/2011/09/sunday-funday-hop-week-12.html

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  38. Just stopping by from Mommy Only Has 2 Hands. I'm looking forward to reading more posts. :)

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  39. You are such a good writer! I really enjoy reading your stories. It really is proof of the different thinking between the sexes, but you have to admit his comment about finding that other guy was pretty witty;)

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  40. I loved this story and I especially loved the ending with the pic of your precious boy and the reminder that he has gladly 'claimed' you :)

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  41. lol I feel your pain! Men--gotta love'em! ;)

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  42. What a great story!! I'm a new GFC follower from the Wild Week-End Hop.
    Hope you can drop by and visit with me,

    Monica
    Blog - http://oldermommystillyummy.blogspot.com/
    Twitter - http://twitter.com/OlderMommyStill
    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/pages/Older-Mommy-Still-Yummy/17349889270514

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  43. New follower from FNF Blog Hop. Please follow back. Thanks!
    http://tigereyes2001reviews.blogspot.com/

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  44. Hi,

    I am a new follower from the blog hop. Please come follow me back http://lifewithtwinsandadramaqueen.blogspot.com/
    Have a WONDERFUL day!

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  45. Another funny post. Love it and so heartwarming that Evan wanted to marry mommy, because you are his best girl...Love it you really have to cherish that!

    Vanessa
    http://vintagevanessasgifts.blogspot.com/
    http://www.etsy.com/shop/vintagevanessasgifts

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  46. Stopping by from Sunday Funday Hop. I am now a follower, please follow back :)

    http://onemomsmoxie.blogspot.com/

    http://www.facebook.com/OneMomsMoxie

    Loved reading your post :)

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  47. Stopping by from Voicebok.

    That is so hilarious! My husband always tells me, "This better not end up on facebook OR your blog." Good thing he doesn't know about twitter yet. LOL

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  48. I understand your husbands point, and I totaly agree, however I have learned that sometimes when you are right you are wrong. Tell your husband The Cranky Old Man says, "Go renew, don't try and make sence out of it, go and enjoy" Some investments pay huge dividends!

    The Cranky Old Man

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  49. so funny! and cute. I love that your little guy wanted to marry mommy. you are a very talented writer. I'm a new follower from VB wednesday hop. take care!

    kathryn
    www.thedragonsfairytail.blogspot.com

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  50. Love it! I threaten my hubbie with the same stuff - the blog!! My wedding was a disaster and I keep threatening him that he must make it up to me on our 10th. He's not that thrilled about it either - ah, men!

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  51. Hi..I'm following you now from Monday Blog hop on MBC. Great story and gorgeous photos. I'm looking forward to learning more about you. Have a great week!

    Blessings,
    ~Cat
    http://livinglikekingsburys.blogspot.com

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  52. Greetings from the Mama-press Blog Hop! I can tell that I am going to enjoy your posts :) You are Blessed, love the photo's and what a touching and cute story! Sending up a prayer for your Grandma Peg...

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  53. Hi, Debs Dealz stopping by to follow you via GFC. I love your site! I would like to invite you to check out by blog as well, and follow me back if you like, and/or like me on Facebook. We have daily blog hops...we would love to have you link up and participate!! We feel the blog hops are great ways to network with other bloggers, increase our followers and meet awesome people! We currently have the Time Out Tuesday Hop available to link up to. Stop on by!! Also, if you exchange buttons let me know!
    http://www.debsdealz.blogspot.com
    Thanks, Debs Dealz

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  54. Jenn, I just wanted you to know that you and your family are in my prayers. Much love to you.

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  55. Hey Jenn, I hope you're family is doing well. I've kept you in my prayers, but haven't wanted to bug you. I pray that God is giving you all peace right now!
    Blessings and hugs!!!
    ~Erin

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  56. HAAAAAAAA. Stop being an idiot. I love it. Sounds like what I say to my husband. I don't quote him on my regular blog, but I have a family one I write and I kind of get around that by quoting my kids who recognize things Daddy does that aren't good. HAHA. He can't blame me for that, I'm just telling cute stories about the kids.
    Visiting from vB.

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  57. Praying all is well. Any update on your sweet Grandma?

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  58. Nice post.
    I have added your button to my blog - I am really looking forward to visiting your blog more!

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  59. Notice my husband is referred to as "Hubby" in my stories. He doesn't like being on my blog either and like yours, he's made a few comments like "oh, I guess you're going to write about this" (and not in a good way. lol Loving your stories! Donna

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  60. As a tourism guy, I just love travel stories. I also like the rare date night as well.

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  61. I am a new follower please follow me back at lefthandedideas.com.

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  62. Living proof that men indeed are from Mars, and we women are from Venus :)...

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